Biracial Bond

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Today, the B.A.F. focuses on a subject that is part of the very fabric of our mission. Awareness is our cornerstone, but the finer points are a connection to our past heroes and heroines. Education in the history of biracial blood lines is also paramount. Coming from the big city of Brooklyn, NY, the biracial bonds are no longer questioned or mocked. Their history and struggles (even more) have an unspoken acceptance. But, since I’ve ventured outside the boarders of major city life, I’ve found states, cities and towns where African Americans are not populous. This has left biracial and black children, teenagers and young adults “still” facing an identity crisis. They are different in appearance, although attractive, and forced to mesh in a world only half fitted to their true selves. Fact, the brown gene is dominant, so the mix usually allows them strong African American features like hair, skin tone, nose structure and physical build. There are places where there may be only one or two minorities in a classroom. An added dilemma is having a single mother or father without the influence of their African American counter part. They may feel lost and out of place and have a disconnect in a time when African Americans are heavy in pop culture, movies and sports. But, where the lapse and injustice is is a lack of black culture and understanding of our rich past.

So please, if you know “anyone” of biracial birth, direct them to this soulful cry. I wish to express to them and give clarity to our “brotheren” who may be suffering in silence with a feeling of longing! In a time of “instant answers”, there is no soothing for ethnic solarity.

Biracial bond; my brothers and sisters, beautiful in your own blackness, beautiful in your European flavor. The best part of our American roots, your history is our history. We couldn’t have progressed without you. I long for the day when biracial terms and tags fall away like the dead terms of negro and mulatto. Beautiful is the diversity of black, the spectrum of African shades, enriched in tones and hues of nobility. The deep rooted darkness of our African descendants. From “Wesley Snipes black” to the raw and pure beauty of “Alicia Keys black”. The history is just as enriched. The biracial introduction helped break the back of slavery. The slave owners and the mothers and fathers of these mixed children had the power of looking in the face of their seed that “destroyed all hate”. You are the bridge to the fragile racial culture of America, born for a reason and a purpose. You are the bridge with blood lines divided into the true fabric of America. The living definition of the term with so much meaning – “black and white”.

There are stories of a slave girl that was so light that she passed for white in the early 18th century, at the height of slavery. The plantation was doing so poorly that they allowed slaves to work odd jobs, mostly men, at shipping docks. The master took 70 percent of earnings, but allowed the slaves some financial freedom. The light skinned slave girl got a job at an all white hospital. She, nor her family, told the master where she was working. They told him she was a nanny. She went from a shift nurse to the leading nurse at the hospital and eventually bought her family’s freedom from the desperate plantation owner. “History”, in the earliest of times, has thousands of untold stories just as this. A quote etched in stone, dating back to the 1700’s, reads “A child of two races ashamed of one hell, one horror”.

You need no acceptance or validation, you’re black by birth. The connection to the white world seems easy, even if the biracial child’s environment is predominately black. America is run and populated by Europeans. The connection is just there. The crisis is the African American burden. No race carries the sting of injustice like African Americans do. Imagine if you could be part of the oppressed and the oppressor at the same time! Imagine the guilt and anger. I speak to you as an African American man whom knows true black culture. The beauty in your heritage far outweighs the hate. The past builds promise in this day and age. The positive is the aim. Release, just as all African Americans must do. Leave the pains of the past in the past while remembering the struggle, yours in particular, to move in a forward direction.

Swirl world; the voice of your unique culture rings with volume on the stage of pop culture. Look around the generations of the 80’s and 90’s children. Multiracial Americans are the cutting edge of social and demographic change in America. You are young, proud and tolerant and growing at rate three times as fast as the whole of the U.S. population. Some famous biracial people are Halle Berry, Dwayne Johnson, Slash (Guns N Roses), Mariah Carey, Olivia Munn, Alicia Keys, former NAACP President/CEO Benjamin Jealous, Maya Rudolph, Lenny Kravitz, Drake and Jasmine guy. The likes of Frederick Douglass wrote “My mother was of dark complexion. My father was a white man”. The list of the contributions of biracial children and adults have made is immeasurable. The vibrant Mayor of Ithaca is a 29 year old political sensation, Svante Myrick. He is a shining example of the power of both worlds. Racism may never die, but this wave will ensure that we diminish its impact. Plainly put, the wave of biracial class will never lean into the tone pf the Black Panther Party. It may never be pulled into the KKK rhetoric. Never forget African Americans. One’s mother is one’s mother, you cannot tell them “Oh, you’re legally black” or vice versa. The white influence says “you’re white, look at who takes care of you”.

The point is pure. You are of US, bonded by birth to a culture of diversity, bringing tolerance to a nation built on race supremacy. This is the god given answer to racism! The B.A.F. understands that talk is good, but we like to give real life functional solutions with a special address to single white mothers with biracial children. It seems to be the place with the most need. While we also acknowledge those many African American fathers who are the primary care givers or fully a part of their children’s lives.

The single most important thing you must do as a parent, since you’ve taken on this beautiful, but complex family obligation, is “education of culture”. Do this while breaking down the myths and stereotypes. If you don’t, society will!

• Engage your young children in a game of “you didn’t know they’re just like you”. You must present a culture in which they feel a part of.
• Educate yourself on black culture so you can enhance their understanding of important events. You, as a parent, want to be the first person they hear it from. Your child undoubtedly trusts you. Discuss topics like slavery, Africa, discrimination, black leaders, inner cities, crime, disparity, racism, acceptance, diversity, unity and black history month.

We have devoted a whole section called “Biracial Bond” for practical things like hair and skin care. We post a range of day to day products, techniques and reflection reinforcements. Please visit this section!

To our African American fathers of biracial children, you too have taken on the enormous task of raising a biracial child. Education is your aim as well. Yet, the obligation runs deeper. You are the “safety” in exposure to your past environment. Bring them to where you grew up and make them a big part of your family. The environment you expose them to may be very different than theirs. Show them how most African Americans and biracial people grew up. Show them positives that came from such an environment. Instill appreciation, reality and the diversity of themselves into them. They have the best of both worlds. It isn’t just an album title. Make it a reality in their world. Please always be aware that white or otherwise, your child’s mother will always deserve respect as well. Embrace the bond of black and white. The same bond you have or had for the culture of white.

• Teach your biracial children the weakness of steriotypes.
• Educate them on how to conduct themselves in a world where they might see racism.
• Encourage them to see the advantages of their biracial culture.

I close with the best living example of our biracial bond, the President of the United States, Barack Obama. When reinforcing the pride of your child’s unique culture, start with the promise and positive role model of our epic historical symbol.

Love of ALL black life
Warrior of awareness
Copyright 2016

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